2012 Iowa Caucuses

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Quick analysis of the Iowa caucus returns:

It seems the big winners in Iowa are Rick Santorum and Ron Paul.  Though Mitt Romney will place first or second, he has been consistently pegged as the establishment front-runner so a close first-place finish, or a second-place finish, may be seen as an upset of sorts.

Whether Santorum is just another flavor-of-the-month or a serious candidate remains to be seen. Is he surging at the right time, as some pundits say, or did the Iowa caucuses just happen to fall at his peak and the results would have been much different if the caucuses had been held a week from now?  Only time will tell.  Santorum seemed to have the most supporters at the Carter Lake, IA caucus; however, many of them were under 18.  A number of large families (not sure if they were Catholic or Baptist; the long skirts indicated “baptist” to me) were present with even pre-teen children holding “Santorum” signs. Fundamental Baptist, and Bill Gothard devotee, JimBob Duggar and family were also reported to be touring Iowa in support of Santorum.  So he has some interesting characters in his camp.  His supporters also seemed to be unclear on the distinction between the US and the rest of the world in that their statements indicated a belief that the US had full right and authority to intervene anywhere in the world if perceived American interests were being violated. It seems as though a President Santorum might be so focused on the affairs of the rest of the world, specifically the Middle East, that one has to wonder what focus he might actually have on the homeland. Would American lives be sacrificed so as to pit one Middle Eastern nation against another?

Newt Gingrich’s fourth place finish, much to the chagrin of the hawkish Republican establishment, probably means he is not to be legitimately regarded as a front-runner, though it remains to be seen how he will do in New Hampshire.

Despite finishing third, it seems Ron Paul may have had the most to gain, as the media is now forced to take him seriously. Though there were still a few curious happenings, such as CNN losing the feed of a active-duty military Paul supporter right as he was starting to say Israel was fully capable of defending itself, tonight seemed to be the most positive airtime Ron Paul has received on the major networks in recent history. A third place finish in Iowa, with 21% of the vote (and no candidate receiving more than 25%), seems to prove that he is becoming better known by voters and is no longer seen as a fringe or niche candidate. This should in turn lead to more time in debates, and more opportunities to directly engage with the other front-runners.

It seems that one area the Paul campaign could improve on is with the socially-conservative voters, including some evangelicals. This is a demographic that seems to have been dominated by Santorum in Iowa, despite Fox News even highlighting how similar the two candidates are on issues such as abortion. <http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2012/01/03/santorum-paul-compete-to-prove-pro-life-credentials/>  Perhaps in future debates or advertisements, Paul should place more of a focus on his pro-life record, his championing of causes such as homeschooling, etc. Socially-conservative voters will need to be persuaded that a states-rights position does not counter a pro-life position, and perhaps also be shown that it is inconsistent to demand a smaller and less-intrusive government except in cases where a national edict serves the right cause, as this would essentially set precedent for any other group to use as well in the future. Paul’s literature, both print and online, highlights his pro-life commitment; another pamphlet and a section of his website describe his pro-homeschooling (education freedom) stance.  These are areas that need to be promoted more in order to gain with social conservatives and some evangelicals.

Paul is not going to win dispensationalists. This particular subset of evangelicals, probably the majority of American evangelicals, will be too committed to Israel above all other interests and this is not something Paul is going to sway on.  As a Lutheran, he does not share the belief that Israel remains God’s chosen people and that Christians must defend the political nation-state of Israel in order to receive God’s favor. Because this is a key tenet of dispensational theology, Paul is not going to win the dispensational vote. Period.  But not all social conservatives are dispensationalists. This is an area where hopefully Reformed Christians will side with Paul, if on religious grounds, rather than with the dispensationalists; in spiritual terms, there is no significance to the modern nation-state of Israel, and so the US is not going to fall under judgment if it does not defend Israel at all costs!

The big wild-card at this point is where the supporters of the bottom-tier candidates will go once their preferred candidate drops out.  At this point it seems to me that once Perry, Bachmann, Gingrich, etc. call it quits, Santorum will gain the most, as he remains a very establishment-friendly candidate that also scores well with the dispensationalists. But will he retain the supporters he has now, or is he just another flavor of the month?  And will Paul be able to build on a strong showing in Iowa to win supporters away from Romney or Santorum?  All this remains to be seen.

Another look at Christmas

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Christmas is about the Incarnation — the humiliation of Christ in taking on flesh, becoming one of us, with redemption fully in view.  On one hand, it is the beginning of Easter.  It’s the beginning of the historical event in which God entered creation so as to redeem and heal that creation, as promised many years before right after that perfect creation was broken in the Garden of Eden.  In fact, all history before that first Christmas pointed to that event in anticipation – and then it happened! Not in a majestic show of power, but with a small beginning – in a feeding trough in a small town in Israel.

Listen to this song by Andy Gullahorn (based on “An Advent Monologue” by Walt Wangerin).  Who is the girl in the song (and story)? At first, it seems it could be anyone.  Then when you hear the surprise ending (which now you know is coming), you might think it’s Mary.  But the story doesn’t fully fit.  I think she represents the people of God.   Apart from Christ, condemnation is all we hear.  In the years before Christ’s first coming, God’s people had fallen away, been used and abused by false prophets and led by false gods. The law was a harsh schoolmaster, and brought condemnation and fear.  But when Christ came, God did a new thing. He entered that creation, was the law — the Word made flesh — fully man while fully God; experiencing all the pain of this world… so as to lead His people out of bondage into freedom as the Bride of Christ.

 

Merry Christmas!

Christmas Post

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I decided not to do a Christmas letter this year as I didn’t feel like I had enough exciting news or fun anecdotes on 2011 to mail out, but more recently decided I might as well still do a blog update for the year in review.  This will be more of interest to friends and family, so casual blog readers and those just stopping by via Google searches may want to skip this post. I’ll have more blog content up sometime in January.

 

In a lot of ways 2011 was an intense year, mostly due to experiences and surprises in life and ministries. (Nothing earth-shattering happened, so if that’s what you’re looking for, you’ll be disappointed in this post!)  But while it hasn’t been the easiest year, it hasn’t been bad. A lot of new things, learning opportunities, and otherwise just a bunch of “everyday” things. I can’t complain!

 

January:

I don’t remember anything particularly exciting that happened in January so I’ll just share a photo from that month.

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February:

Referring back to Facebook statuses as I don’t remember a whole lot from February. It was a short month. Apparently I did some home repair tasks, went skiing at Mt. Crescent (didn’t go to Colorado this time), and biked across south Lincoln on a warm day…

 

March:

Went to North Carolina for MTW training and became Associate Staff. Completion of this training meant I was certified to lead, or assist with, MTW ministry and mission trips.  After training I also took a vacation day and saw Cherokee, NC, Asheville, NC, and Greenville, SC.

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April: 

Beginning of another Cubs season… maybe this is the year!  (It wasn’t.)  I also attended the first college game at TD Ameritrade Park in Omaha, which has definitely been an upgrade for the local sports scene. If only we could get a full-time professional team to play in it…
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Most of my Facebook updates in April seemed to be political in nature. That probably goes with having a small business and April 15 being tax day…  though around that time I also led a Sunday School class at church based on “When Helping Hurts” and “Prosperity and Poverty“.  Had a lot to think about while leading the class since many of the topics related to the ministry I do with MTW.

 

May:

The main thing in the month of May was preparation for the summer ministry trip to the Native American Reservation, which I organized and led this year as the previous MTW representative had retired, and I was now MTW staff. A lot of work went into following up with local contacts, determining which work opportunities would best meet local needs, and working on team-building within my group from Omaha.

My sister Emily and I also went to the Omaha area’s other new baseball stadium, Werner Park, in May. Unless you are under the age of 12, there’s no doubt TD Ameritrade Park is the better facility of the two.
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June:

MTW Ministry on the Reservation!  From June 4 to 10, I organized the fifth-annual week of service on the Reservation.  Applying principles from “When Helping Hurts”, we sought to work for those who couldn’t help themselves, so as to not contribute to problems by taking away individuals’ opportunities to benefit their own families.  This was a partial success; some we got right, and some we didn’t.  These proved to be learning experiences for the future. Our team mission statement and goals were: ”With humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.” (Phil. 2:3) “Working as one team to meet one another’s needs, and to bear one another’s burdens, so that each person [is] free to best fulfill their given roles and callings.”

On June 14, I got to see Mumford and Sons perform live!  And on the 16th, I got to hear Ron Paul speak!  Also “survived” a severe storm at the College World Series later in the month and attended the CD release concert of a local band whose lead singer also participated in the ministry on the Reservation.

 

July:

Got another opportunity to preach at Grace Reformed Church; addressed the topic of adoption & sonship (from Romans VIII) in a sermon on July 10, which is linked in a previous blog post.  The topic of sonship was also the theme of the 20-Somethings study at church; this was my second time through so I hosted and co-led the discussion this time around. Very eye-opening once again!  Also in July, the ministry team had another opportunity to go up to the Reservation to help with a carnival during Suicide Prevention Week, and we presented to the congregation what we had done in June with a multimedia show that lasted over an hour and a half!

July was a stressful month partly due to things pertaining to the ministry on the Reservation.  We started to see some behind-the-scenes things involving the effects of our own actions (although well-intentioned), as well as observing another group’s behavior and the impact that had in the community. As interim leader of ministries there with MTW, until a full-time staff member was hired, it made for a lot to think about in evaluating ways to ensure we did as much good as possible with as little harm as possible (preferably none at all).

A recurring theme for me throughout the month of July was seeing God’s grace and healing in the middle of a lot of brokenness. This was the subject of many Facebook posts and blog articles throughout the summer and fall.

 

August:

Spent part of a week in Colorado for a family reunion with some relatives on my mom’s side of the family.

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On August 20, we also went back to the Reservation to put on the third annual “Back to School Picnic” there.  Another highlight in August was getting to hear Derek Webb & Sandra McCracken at a house show concert!

 

September:

I spent Labor Day weekend in Chicago with a friend. Though this was clearly not “the year” for the Cubs, they at least beat the Pirates!

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Later in September I completed the house exterior painting project! It “only” took me two months, working a little at a time, but it was nice to get it all finished! I didn’t drastically change the color — still bright green — but it looks a lot better now! I also repainted the living room; just a few “house maintenance” tasks crossed off the list!

Every few weeks in September, October, November, and December I returned to the Reservation for kids ministry. A couple times I went with a family member, but otherwise went alone. That aspect was discouraging, but it has still been good to go and participate.  A goal in 2012 will be recruiting and/or rebuilding a ministry team.

 

October:

My sister Carly and I went to Lawrence, Kansas in early October to hear the band Downhere perform. We’d known about them for the last few years, but it was an interesting concert as this occurred right after lead singer Marc Martel surged in popularity (to say the least) after his Queen tribute band audition!

I saw every Omaha Nighthawks home game at TD Ameritrade Park, in what hopefully wasn’t their final season but probably was…

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Also enjoyed some nice fall hikes in October — Cunningham Lake became a favorite hiking spot.

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At the end of October I realized I’d need to get a different car. The engine had started to make a rattling sound and wasn’t going to be repairable except by a costly rebuild, and the mechanic and I agreed it wasn’t worth it…

 

November:

…so November opened with car shopping. I was able to get a good trade on my car, which surprised me, so I acted quickly and bought another car on November 2.
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I also celebrated another birthday in November (it really was okay, though I admit I haven’t been all that thrilled about some recent birthdays!). So yes – that went well and while I don’t feel any different being another year older, it’s another trip around the sun, and many new experiences and opportunities to grow in grace. So that’s all good!  There were a few events in November such as a quick trip out to Hastings for one game of the state volleyball tournament and a drive up to Oakland, NE on the 4th.

My sister Carly surprised me with tickets to a show at the Ryman Auditorium in Nashville for my birthday — more on that under “December” though!

Overall, November wasn’t a very good month. One thing that happened was I had to go in for an emergency root canal before Thanksgiving, which was painful… on the wallet, not to mention physically.  But I’ve kept busy with work for clients, including quite a bit of new business, so that’s been a blessing!  And in some recent events I really have come to experience God’s grace even more… it’s one thing to know it as a “heady” theological concept, but entirely another to live it, internalize it, etc. I’m not saying I’m any where near a “pro” at that, just so we’re clear — but it’s a start. I’m thankful for the writings of people such as Scotty Smith and Walt Wangerin, whose books have been very encouraging!

At the end of November I won a Tim Tebow jersey at Old Chicago! As a Broncos fan, I wasn’t really “sold” on him at first (back when Kyle Orton was the starter), but the wins don’t lie and now the playoffs are within reach!  I will add that I find the current controversy over Tebow (even such that I have been heckled while wearing the jersey) to be ridiculous… this might be the subject of a future post. For now, GB2 (God Bless and Go Broncos), to borrow from Tebow’s Twitter updates!

 

December:

I finally was able to get a ticket to see the Nebraska volleyball team play at the Coliseum!  That may not seem like a big deal but in this state it’s often harder to get volleyball tickets than it is to get football tickets! (Yes, sporting events and concerts are some of my preferred forms of entertainment and thus may be the high points of any given month…)

On the 17th I went to the Reservation again, and participated in the Christmas event for the kids there! They had a lot of fun!  By this point things have been worked out there as far as my status, and plans for future ministries are being made. While I am not going to be repeating the leadership role I had this year, I’ll be continuing as associate staff and will have more of an advisory role.

Carly and I spent December 18 and 19 in Nashville, Tennessee!  We saw Andrew Peterson’s presentation of “Behold the Lamb of God” at the historic Ryman Auditorium. It’s been a tradition to go when he has been in Nebraska each of the last few years, but this year he didn’t have any Nebraska shows on the tour.  So Carly bought tickets to the Nashville show.

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We stayed on “Music Row” just west of downtown and got to see a very “hipster” neighborhood, also full of many recording studios and rather non-hipster huge publishing and licensing companies.  Another highlight of the trip was going to a coffee shop that now houses a small “Rabbit Room” store.

And now that brings me to the present… where it’s December 23rd and I still have one Christmas gift I need to go pick out, so I’d better get to that! Here’s hoping all of you family and friends that will see this are doing well this Christmas season. So thankful for all of you!  Since this will be publicly viewable I am not posting contact info here but you know ways you can reach me.  Look me up on Twitter, Facebook, Flickr, or Tumblr.

“Glory to Jesus, ancient and strong; giver of love and the theme of my song…”

Merry Christmas!

-Joel

God With Us

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I’ll admit it. I’m a sucker for stories of reconciliation. Especially ones that somehow weave a glimpse of future perfect reconciliation into a happy ending. If you’re not exactly sure what I mean, think of the line near the end of “The Return of the King” when Samwise Gamgee exclaims, “Gandalf! I thought you were dead! But then I thought I was dead myself. Is everything sad going to come untrue? What’s happened to the world?” Or how at the end of “The Chronicles of Narnia” when Lucy “looked hard at the garden and saw that it was not really a garden but a whole world, with its own rivers and woods and sea and mountains. But they were not strange: she knew them all. ‘I see,’ she said. ‘This is still Narnia, and more real and more beautiful than the Narnia down below…’”

 

What is the draw to endings such as this? Perhaps it is because they appeal to something planted in each of God’s covenant people by His grace – the desire for something better – total reconciliation of all things to God.

 

That reality is seen at the end of the Story of All Stories – God’s Word – in what is easily the most misunderstood book therein, Revelation. (I’m not going to go into the different views on that book right now, as that’s a whole other debate, but I’ll just say that my view may be different than yours, but in the end it doesn’t matter because there’s one thing we can all agree on:  God wins.)

 

Revelation 21 opens this way: “Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

 

Observation #1:  God will be with us in a new and better way.  Yes, He is with us now. He has given us the Holy Spirit, the Comforter, and has assured us that He is with us always. (Is. 41:10, Matt. 28:20). But in the age to come it will be so much better. God’s presence with His people will be fully realized.  The current age is still marked by so much division – the division between heaven and earth, division between life and death, division between redeemed and unredeemed, and so on.  But these divisions will be gone in the age to come.  The dwelling place of God will truly be with man.  We’ve seen glimpses of this reality of this throughout history – the tabernacles and temples of the Old Covenant, and then the better New Covenant in which the temple was abolished once for all, as in the person and body of Christ we see what all the previous symbols really pointed to. Edmund Clowney explained it this way: “Precisely because Christ builds the temple in himself he can build it in his disciples.The significance of the temple symbol is the reality it symbolized: the dwelling of God in the midst of his people and their gathering together to meet with him. Christ builds the temple in himself as he actualizes the saving presence of God. Christ builds the temple in his people as he gathers them to himself.”

 

So in the final age, the beginning of eternity, God’s presence with man will finally be fully realized.  And what a change that brings! All the pain of life will be over. No more hurt, suffering, or any of the other crap life brings.  It will all be over.  All the enemies, even death – the last enemy – will have been defeated.  For God’s covenant people, all separation will be a thing of the past, forever.  The separation between the dwelling places of God and God’s covenant people will be a thing of the past.  The separation between the saints in heaven and saints on earth will be a thing of the past, as death will be a thing of the past.  The separation between the now and not yet will be a thing of the past, as there will be no more “not yet”.  This is summed up in even the sea being gone – long a symbol of division, uncertainty, terror, etc. – there will no longer be a place for it.

 

And then perhaps the most beautiful depiction – and the one that the majority of the remainder of Revelation is spent on – is the New Jerusalem – the Bride of Christ!

 

Observation #2:  We often think of the “New Jerusalem” being a physical place, a synonym for heaven, or the “capital city” of the new creation.  Maybe, but for the remainder of this post, bear with me and consider an alternate explanation.

 

Rev. 21:9-11 “Then came one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls full of the seven last plagues and spoke to me, saying, “Come, I will show you the Bride, the wife of the Lamb.” And he carried me away in the Spirit to a great, high mountain, and showed me the holy city Jerusalem coming down out of heaven from God, having the glory of God, its radiance like a most rare jewel, like a jasper, clear as crystal.”

 

Verses 9-11 seem to be as clear as it gets: the New Jerusalem is not a physical city but rather a tangible representation of the perfected covenant people of God. Historically, Jerusalem represented the place where creation came for communion with God, as the Temple was in Jerusalem. After Christ came, earthly Jerusalem was seen to be just a foreshadowing of something even greater – all the nations coming to Christ, the true Temple – and the victorious reign of the saints with Christ in heaven.  But it seems there is something even greater still to come: John sees the “New Jerusalem” – perfected community between Creator and creation – coming down to the renewed earth. It seems that at the beginning of the eternal state, the saints from all throughout history will come from heaven, more alive than they ever were, and populate the renewed earth! Terms are used to describe the perfected, purified church as being like a most rare jewel – terms intended to describe how it is more precious than anything else in the eyes of its Maker and Lover.

 

Rev. 21:12-22 “It had a great, high wall, with twelve gates, and at the gates twelve angels, and on the gates the names of the twelve tribes of the sons of Israel were inscribed—on the east three gates, on the north three gates, on the south three gates, and on the west three gates. And the wall of the city had twelve foundations, and on them were the twelve names of the twelve apostles of the Lamb. And the one who spoke with me had a measuring rod of gold to measure the city and its gates and walls. The city lies foursquare, its length the same as its width. And he measured the city with his rod, stadia. Its length and width and height are equal. He also measured its wall, 144 cubits by human measurement, which is also an angel’s measurement. The wall was built of jasper, while the city was pure gold, like clear glass. The foundations of the wall of the city were adorned with every kind of jewel. The first was jasper, the second sapphire, the third agate, the fourth emerald, the fifth onyx, the sixth carnelian, the seventh chrysolite, the eighth beryl, the ninth topaz, the tenth chrysoprase, the eleventh jacinth, the twelfth amethyst. And the twelve gates were twelve pearls, each of the gates made of a single pearl, and the street of the city was pure gold, like transparent glass. And I saw no temple in the city, for its temple is the Lord God the Almighty and the Lamb.”

 

Also present here is much symbolism of the continuity of the people of God, using imagery of the Old Testament people, the tribes of Israel.  John describes twelve gates, twelve angels, the names of the twelve tribes, twelve foundations, twelve apostles, and measurements of 12,000 stadia and 144 cubits (12 squared).  All of these signify the covenant people of God throughout history, from the foundational twelve tribes of Israel to the prominent twelve apostles of the New Testament.  Then we also see a reference to the twelve high priestly stones (which may conjure imagery of both Christ as the great High Priest, as well as the priesthood of all believers), and finally, no temple! – because God is with his people.  The old divisions have been done away with.  The physical separation is over.  God is there. And the new heavens have also changed – they are no longer needed for light, because God’s glory now illuminates everything.  All the world – all the covenant people from all the nations – now fully acknowledge the authority of God, as there is no longer any sin or deception.

 

Rev. 21:23 – 22:5 “And the city has no need of sun or moon to shine on it, for the glory of God gives it light, and its lamp is the Lamb. By its light will the nations walk, and the kings of the earth will bring their glory into it, and its gates will never be shut by day—and there will be no night there. They will bring into it the glory and the honor of the nations. But nothing unclean will ever enter it, nor anyone who does what is detestable or false, but only those who are written in the Lamb’s book of life.

 

Then the angel showed me the river of the water of life, bright as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb through the middle of the street of the city; also, on either side of the river, the tree of life with its twelve kinds of fruit, yielding its fruit each month. The leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations. No longer will there be anything accursed, but the throne of God and of the Lamb will be in it, and his servants will worship him. They will see his face, and his name will be on their foreheads. And night will be no more. They will need no light of lamp or sun, for the Lord God will be their light, and they will reign forever and ever.”

 

Sometimes we get so focused on the specific details (are the streets really made of gold? will I have a nice mansion in the suburbs of the heavenly city with a white picket fence? do we each get a harp?) that we miss the big picture of what is really being conveyed here:  God will be there! And for God’s covenant people, this means the waiting period is over – we will finally all be together with Him. All will be reconciled; all will be restored.  The part about the gold, and the jewels, and so on – this may not be a depiction of where we’ll live, but rather… us!  This is how much the Creator values us.  We were chosen before all eternity, bought with a price, washed in His blood, and are seen here in terms of being like exquisite gold and precious stones – high priestly stones. Don’t miss this!  This is a picture of how much you mean to God, right here in the middle of a depiction of the perfect reconciliation of the eternal state, and more time is spent on this one aspect than anything else.  And rightly so, as we are described as the bride of Christ.  Let this sink in. This is how much you are valued. Christ’s blood proves that, and this is the end result – for all eternity!  No one will doubt His love at that day.  No more will community ever be broken.  No more will anyone fear, be hurt, fail to communicate, fail to know their worth, or question the Father’s love.  There will no longer be any pain, tears, depression, mourning, or uncertainty.  All will be one hundred percent healed.  The healing that sometimes seems so elusive in the present age will be fully realized. The living water promised throughout Scripture, from the breaking of the rock in Exodus to Christ’s conversation at the well with the Samaritan woman, will flow freely. All will be healed. Everything sad will have come untrue – and then some!   All these things will be perfect, in a perfection that has not been seen since that moment in the Garden of Eden when the creation tried to be as the creator.  This will be the True Eden – the first was but a foretaste, and since then all we have had is glimpses. But one day – it won’t be just a preview, but rather the Real Thing.

 

Focus not so much on the details – are the streets really gold? – as much as the big picture – God is there, all is new, all is reconciled, all is restored – and this is how much he values us. No one doubts. No more will community be broken.  No more will relationships be interrupted.  No more will people fail to communicate with God or fellow man.  All these things will be perfect, in a perfection not seen since that moment in the Garden of Eden when the creation tried to be as the creator.  This will be the True Eden – the first was but a foretaste, and since then all we have had is glimpses. But one day – it won’t be just a preview, but it’ll be the Real Thing.

 

Are you ready?

Constructive Conflict

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Last time the small group study that meets at my house was together, we studied the difference between “peace-making” and “peace-keeping” in the Sonship course.  (That was actually 8 days ago, but I am just now getting around to updating my blog…)

 

The core material for the discussion was an audio recording of a message by the late Jack Miller. There is a big difference between being a true peacemaker or a peacekeeper in that the nature of peacekeeping is simply avoiding conflict – hiding and not resolving anything. But a peacemaker must instead pursue “constructive conflict” for the greater goal of achieving right relationships.

 

A peacekeeper will run away from conflict, perhaps due to his or her own pride. Fear of conflict, or of being found out, or just fear of the unknown may lead some to just ignore things that ought to be addressed. We tend to think that life will be less painful this way.  Retreating from people, or not ever letting them get close enough to even be able to cause pain, seems like a prudent way to remain safe. But it’s a false safety and a false peace, and can only lead to broken relationships.

 

In my notes from 2008, I noticed that I defended my own “peacekeeping skills” by saying I was more peaceful than someone else because I avoided conflict, and that I could remain that way by not letting anyone in because I knew what they would do. While logical, there was no forgiveness there.  Furthermore, the wall of silence just served to actually give the appearance of approval, and remove any opportunities to work through the root issues. My own comfort was worth more than anything else.

 

So ironically, the road to peacemaking may actually lead through conflict.  Constructive conflict, that is.  Constructive conflict must have forgiveness at the core, and be fueled by the Holy Spirit – not self-reliance. Constructive conflict invites the participants to something much better than the present situation, although the way to get there may be rocky.  It’s challenging, uncertain, and maybe even painful for a while, but the end result — reconciliation, community, and healing — is worth the cost.

 

But it still takes a lot of effort. Jack Miller described it as mounting a “love offensive” — peace-making can actually be equated to fighting a war.  But the enemy is not the other person, nor is it their ideas. The enemy is pride and self-righteousness.  It involves losing the point of a conflict, giving up the right to be right, and instead focusing on winning the person.

 

The first step is just to constantly preach to ourselves and others of God’s love. Jack Miller said that what reaches another’s conscience is what reaches ours: that God loves us. It’s the hardest thing to believe, and the most powerful, the most wonderful thing to believe.  (In fact, we might even be a little embarrassed to hear that God loves us.)

 

Then we have to deal with issues, not just personalities. This means putting aside prejudice, pride, and even attitudes, regarding others as more important than ourselves, even to the point of seeming to take a temporal or philosophical defeat.

 

The third aspect is that communication must be open. Jack Miller said this is the core of Sonship:  we can be open, because there’s no reason for hiding:  God loves us (and knows anyway).  We have to be approachable, for one thing, and also go directly to people in case of conflict rather than just talking about them (or talking to them but avoiding the core issues).

 

And again, this takes humility.  Constructive conflict means you will feel like you’re losing the fight with the person you have been in conflict with.  They may seem to be not only unrepentant but also winning.  But in constructive conflict you – by God’s grace – can see the bigger picture, and know you are ceding the little battles that don’t really matter to ultimately win someone back into a right relationship and into proper community, and ultimately, sharing God’s love and forgiveness with someone who’s probably in major need of both – like you, yourself are.

 

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